Yeah! today's survey work at outram park area went well. Its much better than the previous Tiong bahru area i doin. For one its not as hot and also there are more units in one block. Thank god managed to complete 12 interviews in one evening, as compared to only 6 in a day in the last week. Its already considered so much better for me le. And i even managed to do one smoker. Yesh finally find another smoker. Previously most of the ppl i find are not smokers or even when they are smokers, they are not so willing to complete the 30min interview.
2 main persons whom i approached today left the biggest impression in me. The first one was this house with a cross outside the house. When i said i was conducting a quick interview bout 5 mins a few qns only, the lady in the house immediately said im a christian and i want to be at peace with everyone, with her hands out stretched.
Then she said she don like to offend anybody cos shes a Christian. She use that excuse to reject doin the survey for me. Hmmz. I just tot in my heart whether they are really true Christians. ITs fine with me if u don wish to do the survey cos u are not obliged to help me do. But i just find her reasoning very weird. It doesnt really make sense. IF u are truly a Christian i think u should be warm n loving n ready to help others.
Anyway the second person whom i remember is this tanned skinny guy who completed the smoking survey for me. Hes unemployed and staying at his brother flat. He even took a stool for me out to sit at the door side when he saw i was like quite tired standing. At first i told him there will be a 10 dollars voucher for him after he did the survey but he was quite skeptical about it. I assured him i will surely give him the voucher but he still don really blive. Anyway he still answered the qns about wat kind brand he smoke and other smoking qns. Upon completing the survey i chatted with him for a while. When i asked him whether hes eaten he told me he has no money about it. At first i didnt really blive him and i said U don even have a few dollars with U? Then i saw his bony chest and stomach, he doesnt look like he is lyin bout not yet eaten. SO i decided to give him 2 dollars so that at least he can buy some food to eat. Can see his happy face when i gave him the money and i hoped that little bit can fill his stomach for a while. Hmmz i wonder whether is there anyone helping him to find a job like the consitunency or grassroot workers. Or else hes gonna starve again.
Oh ya today read a large portion of the book "I kissed Dating Goodbye" , about five chapters ba. I read it on my way to tuition at Simei. It was a long ride on MRT so used the time to read it. Discovered and learned lotsa challenging n biblical views and opinions on dating and relationships. ITs always better to go out with members of the opposite sex in a group setting unless u are ready to commit. Cos when u put urself in a one on one situation u are putting the focus on each other and theres a danger the 2 of u may grow close physically or emotionally. As i read that, i realise im guilty of dating girls on a one on one basis for the sake of accompaniment or just to get to know the other person better. Quite a few occasions ba. My thinking was that there was no harm, just go out together and see if things can work out. I realise it was kinda wrong thinking, because firstly the girl may not see it that way. She may be growing close to U and expecting to commit or wat. Secondly also by doin that u may not be objective enuf to consider properly how u can show genuine love and concern for her, considering whats really her needs. GOin on one on one dates without being ready to commit is like climbing a mountain with another person and not being ready to support the other person if the other person falls. Eh i am paraphrasing from the book. sounds abit confusing though.haa.
The key idea is that Intimacy is only cause of the reward of commitment. So best is build healthy friendships with the opposite sex, with only thoughts of how U can be of encouragement or blessing to them. And not limiting urself to just one girl. Will definitely continue to finish the book. and i hope to be able to digest some useful guidelins and truths in the book about datin. most impt, to be honoring god in my relationships with girls. As i wait upon Gods direction and timin for my life partner, I want to develop deeper relationship with the Lord as well as with my friends.